June 3, 2020

Sometimes Things Aren’t Right With The Universe and That’s Ok

Morning!

How ya doing over there? Staying positive? Your head isn’t about to explode yet is it? If it’s getting all a little too much just remember sometimes things aren’t always right with the universe and that’s ok. Things aren’t always going to be ok because life is never about perfect.

Yesterday was hard because I didn’t have a great way to express what I wanted to say. I can’t really help anyone with how they feel if I don’t even know how I feel. I’ve turned off the TV, I’ve sat and meditated on it, and realized a great many things by listening. When you listen you learn and learning should be something that happens every single day of your life. To do better, to be better, we have to learn.

I am privileged. I have never had to experience racism. I’ve never had someone judge me by my skin tone. I can’t relate to the feeling of racism. I can’t begin to understand how it must feel. I want to say, “I understand! I’m with you!” But do I understand? No, I don’t understand. I never will.

But I am here for you. I stand with you.

I urge you to seek out positivity anywhere you can today. Avoid all this information flooding the online world and the news about vandalizing and looting. Focus on the positive things that are coming from protests happening around the world. I see people out there protecting businesses, I see people peacefully protesting, I see people sharing love and kindness, I see cops standing with protestors….I see good things but sometimes you have to weed through the bad to see those good things. Seek out the positive today and don’t let the negative things cloud your judgement or make you believe what is going on right now is a horrible, bad, evil thing.

This will pass as all things do pass. And hopefully when it passes we will come out of it stronger, more educated, more understanding, and hopefully we’ll come out of it changed. Because that’s what we need right now. Change.

Take care of yourselves. Take care of each other.

I’m here if you need me.

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Isabella MuseIsabella is just an average everyday geeky girl who doesn’t blend her eyeshadow correctly, wears too much blush, and hopes she never finds her holy grail products because she likes the thrill of the chase so much. Her mission is to bring you super honest reviews on makeup, skincare, fragrance and all things beauty. She’s in no way an expert on the topic and she sure as hell isn’t a super model. But she’s passionate about makeup and is seeking like-minded individuals that like pina coladas, getting caught in the rain, and ones that enjoy spending hundreds of dollars at Sephora without feeling buyer’s remorse. If you’re that person feel free to reach out and leave a comment or follow me on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and Bloglovin‘.

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  • Violet

    Amen! I appreciate your thoughtful, positive messages, Isabella. I’m Asian and have endured racism throughout my life, but I know it’s not on the same level of AAs. My parents raised us to judge on character only and I’m so happy that my son is the same.
    Memphis is having only peaceful protests at the moment, but there are people on local social media trying to whip up a frenzy, and thank goodness, they are being mocked.

    • Isabella Muse

      Racism on any level sucks Violet. You have a friend here and a safe space. You’re doing parenting right as your parents did and that is change right there! We need more of that 🙂 New York has had mmmm some issues but things are starting to become calmer. I’m glad things are ok there!!! <3!

  • kjh

    Thank you. I agree with Violet. It’s the character of the person. Race is not a factor. If anyone thinks that wage disparity is significant for women, look at some of the current articles on wage disparity by race. And we thought that was illegal. I think I understand that racism is born of xenophobia/fear of strangers/others, by social modeling from one’s parents and immediate culture. We are a multicultural society. Most people do have respect for all races, genders. But, as a country, we do not acknowledge that as George Orwell said in Animal Farm, ‘Some are more equal than others.’ We need to pursue equality across the board.

  • Melissa

    Thank you for the sparkling light and love of your message, Muse! It speaks to my very soul. I’ve never commented before but have read you religiously for 3 years now. You’ve turned me on to many holy grail products, for which I am eternally grateful. Lano is my best friend, lol! Bottom line, though, is that I come here for the joy vibes, the goodness and the flow. You are a jewel!

    • Isabella Muse

      Oh Melissa, thank you! I needed to hear your beautiful words today! <3! Thank you SO so So much! <3! I treasure your readership! Thanks for being long time reader/follower! All my love!

  • Nanners

    Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Muse 🙂 I think what you said about not really understanding is so true. Non-black people, even other minority POC, cannot sincerely say “I understand where you’re coming from” because quite frankly, we don’t. But it’s important to say “I’m trying to understand, I want to be an ally“ and educate ourselves on what we don’t know and don’t experience, and listen to our black peers wholeheartedly.

    • Isabella Muse

      Exactly my thoughts. We can try to understand but do we really get it? Will we ever? It’s hard to imagine someone treating me different because of my skin tone. It hurts my heart to think people do that. Listening will def educate us all! We need to hear what is being said! <3!

  • andrea

    thank you for ADMITTING that you don’t know what it feels like while acknowledging that it exists!

    I respect and appreciate that.

    P.S. did anyone notice sephora’s Reward Bazaar today?! VERY INTERESTING!

    • Isabella Muse

      Thank you Andrea for commenting! I can’t know. I can try hard to understand but I’ll never know that type of discrimination. Things need to change. I hope all of this brings about that change. I noticed that! Not entire sure how I feel about it. Seems sort of dumb. Thoughts?

      • andrea

        absolutely Muse! you are one of the things that keeps me sane. checking your page everyday, sometimes twice a day lol. it’s a little bit of normalcy, a little bit of make up and product excitement, and a little bit of real talk.

        I am frustrated with Sephora at the moment because they are FINALLY starting to do cash rewards 500pts = $10 (but only $10 per transaction however) unlike ULTA that lets you cash in up to $30 bucks, maybe more.

        It doesn’t feel like they have genuine intentions on the points for BLM contributions, it feels like they are taking advantage of the situation in order to let beauty insiders cash in their points. i don’t know how it works, but they can’t possibly be paying out our points to a BLM org, can they? either way. feels fake. i feel insulted.

        • Isabella Muse

          Oh Andrea thank you so much! <3 you're lovely this made my day! The cash rewards thing was insulting and ridiculous!

  • DiDi

    We need to listen, really listen to other people. We sometimes are to quick to judge by what we hear and see on the media and that is not the whole story. Frustration and anger come from not being heard.

    • Isabella Muse

      Agreed. By listening, we learn! There’s A LOT of fake news right now. I find comfort in social media as the truth seems to come out there quicker than news sources!

  • StillPedaling

    I love and appreciate all of the comments so far. Completely agree. I was raised to judge on character, not the color of skin or appearance. It saddens me the lengths that people go to to prove a point – though I’m not sure the ones causing all of the damage and destruction even know what they’re fighting for. How is it okay to destroy the mom and pop shop and other property? I just don’t get it. I had nothing to do with it so why are people angry at me because I’m white? I’m not “privileged” nor have I ever received special treatment. Love and be loved. I don’t believe in any of this hatred. We must rise above this as a country – love and be loved. Pay forward the GOOD. It’s true that you get what you give. Sending good vibes and love to the tribe that read your newsletter, Muse! I look forward to your newsletter. Don’t let the hate discourage you from shining bright.

    • Isabella Muse

      Aw thanks! I’m going to try to shine that’s for sure. The looting def is an issue but if you notice a lot of it is done by extremists and not peaceful protestors! These extremists are trying to make it appear as if protestors are responsible 🙁

  • Dee

    “I see good things but sometimes you have to weed through the bad to see those good things. Seek out the positive today and don’t let the negative things cloud your judgement or make you believe what is going on right now is a horrible, bad, evil thing.”

    I just love this! Thank you for being such a positive person even when you are feeling down. There is always good and I like to think of something Mr. Rogers said his mom told him when things were bleak: Always look for the helpers. I see a lot of helpers right now and we can all take comfort in that. Take care!

    • Isabella Muse

      Aw thanks Dee! It’s hard sometimes but I’m trying to be there for all of you 🙂 <3! And everyone else in my life. Mr Rogers is a man of wisdom ;-D You too! Take care of your heart, nourish your soul, and keep your mind strong!

  • Dianne Rocco

    Many people are capable of empathy. Injustice does not need to happen to you to undGo into yourself and ask yourself why is my school using 20 year old text books; why can I buy a house or rent a house in any neighborhood I want,; Why can’t I go to college for I what I want to really do in life; each time my child leaves home to play, go on a date, will the police harass, hurt or kill them. These are a very few questions one can ask themselves, there are many everyday things one can see racial injustice.How can you stand when you do not understand? Open your heart and mind for a few moments and see yourself as someone else and how devastating events affect them , just from skin color. If BLACK people live their lives without POSITIVES they would not have survived for FOUR HUNDRED YEARS

    • Isabella Muse

      Wise words Dianne and plenty of things to think! And also, it makes us all realize how privileged we are. Simple things we take advantage that others are struggling with hard! It hurts my heart to see all of this right now!

  • Amanda Joel

    This was so beautifully said. And I think you expressed what a lot of people are feeling. I don’t understand hate like that either. I never did.
    Thank you again for sharing something so real!
    This is why I enjoy following you so much!

    • Isabella Muse

      Thanks Amanda! Me either. I never will. It’s saddening and hurts the heart. All these horrid vids being post just break me. Thank you Amanda!

  • Dianne

    I thought I could help you feel what it was like to have different skin color. You said you support the movement but you could not understand. Empathy is definitely needed. You can still have joy .You can still understand and feel for others, that is what makes a better world. My first comment was not printed because I thought you would like to know and understand what is going on to make a better world for all. UNDERSTAND.

    • Isabella Muse

      I am empathic to a fault. This entire thing is really hurting my heart right now and I def try to understand but I never will having never been in a situation where I am judged for something as simple as my skin tone. Things need to change. I agree. We can still have joy and we need to be thankful we are healthy and here to experience the good and the bad things. Your first comment was approved and replied to this morning. My comments are on moderation. Yesterday, I didn’t answer very many comments or even post much because I’m feeling a bit confused, saddened, and broken about all the problems in the world right now. I actually posted an apology for not posting yesterday because I wasn’t myself. Sorry for the delayed reply.

      • Dianne

        There isn’t any reason Dear Dee to apologize.. Life does that to all of us, as decent human beings we are shocked by some things that happen in this world. We have to get our brain and our heart together because it is not something we would consider or think to do to others. The world gets better because we acknowledge the problems and seek to repair the wrongs in this world, and that brings us joy, to understand and try to improve You are human and obviously a good soul because you had a”brain and heart freeze” and I too have had that more than once in my life and I know there will be more. So, no need to apologize for being a good soul and learning about the injustices in our country. Smile through all of this and knowing you can help any way you choose and enjoy that you truly have a caring soul and a good heart Lots of LOVE TO YOU.

  • Vivianne

    Thank you for your positivity, support, and for being an ally Muse. Your links to Black Lives Matter and the Equal Justice Initiative were absolutely valuable for my husband and I. We will be donating to these organizations along with several others. We all need to stand up, hold ourselves accountable, support, educate, and love each other! Thanks again for your kind heart and spirit 🙂

    • Isabella Muse

      thanks Vivianne! <3! I'm so so glad that was helpful! Your donations will be appreciate I'm sure but don't stop there. Spread love and positivity as well and support ;-D <3! Thank you for your lovely comment today!

  • Ametaf

    Isabella, I love you and your message and have been following your blog for years. Yes, I understand and empathize with seeking positivity but we must also open our eyes to the reality of the situation. We can’t glorify cops who kneel for a photo op and then practice brutality and beat up protesters 10 minutes later. Sending love and hopefully understanding

    • Isabella Muse

      Hi Ametaf! THank you so much for your long time reader/friendship! Yes we must! And yes! I totally agree! Less fake, more realness! We don’t need photo ops we need people that are actually defending the movement and supporting it!