Don’t Let Anyone Make You Feel Less Than You Are
I wrote a post back in 2016 which you can read below that was directed at Aishwarya Rai Bachchan at the time. She was being trolled because she wore purple lipstick to the Cannes a few years ago. There was so much hate directed at her because she simply wore a certain color of lipstick.
I’m hauling out the article below because recently, much to my horror, I’ve seen so many awful comments on Tiktok. When I joined Tiktok on a whim last year during isolation and pure boredom at being home it was a really a safe haven. People were so positive and upbeat on Tiktok. It wasn’t as toxic as Facebook or angry as Twitter or judgemental as Instagram. Everyone seemed like a big, happy family. Until recently anyway. Now I read so many comments directed at some of my favorite Tiktokers and I cringe in horror and I hurt for them because having people throw crappy comments down is something I can relate to. Musings of a Muse is around since 2007 and I’ve had my share of hate. I’ve even cried over one or two things that have been said to me. I’ve developed a thicker skin after doing it so long and I try to let the negativity slide off my back nowadays. 99% of the comments and feedback I receive are amazing but they’ll be a troll or two that sneaks in to spread some suck all over the place.
Just remember……
Never let anyone dim your light. Never let anyone bully or shame you into believing you’re somehow doing something wrong because you made a fashion or makeup choice based off your own likes. Never let anyone make you feel less than beautiful.
Wear the purple lipstick, dye your hair hot pink, make Tiktoks dancing, post goofy selfies on Instagram, DO YOU and have fun. Don’t let anyone judge you or make you cry or make you think or believe you’re not beautiful or smart or funny….
You’re perfect just as you are.
Be good humans to yourself and to others.
The below article was written in 2016.
There’s so much hate and shaming and much of that sadly, stems from women shaming other women or bullying other women. Dude, we’re all sisters. WTH? I see it in youTube comments, I see it across forums, I see it right here on my blog where I’ll get comments pointing what someone doesn’t like about me or what I’m wearing, etc…etc…
The most popular excuse for this behavior is, “Well, she puts herself out there so she deserves it!” Wait, what!? What does that even mean? Someone deserves your hate because they “put themselves out there”. We’re strong, opinionated women we should put ourselves out there every single day of our lives without the fear of being torn down by others. We shouldn’t cower or shy away from expressing ourselves in any manner we choose. We’re all unique and we should embrace our uniqueness without worrying about someone thinking it is ok to shame us into believing we are somehow doing something wrong because we wish to express ourselves in any manner we choose be it blogging, wearing bright orange eyeshadow, or shaving our heads!
A hundred years ago, my dearest Auntie (not by birth but a very good friend of my mother’s) introduced me to the joys of Bollywood cinema (and damn fine Indian food too). 2001 was the year I fell in love with Shahrukh Khan and to this day the soundtrack to Kabhi Khushi Kabhie Gham plays a very important roll on my Itunes Playlist! It was also around this time that I developed a girl crush on Aishwarya Rai. I mean when I think of Aishwarya Rai, I instantly think of the most beautiful women in the world. She’s stunning! She could wear a paper bag and gym socks and she’d still rule the room.
That’s why I was very saddened to read an article recently about Aishwarya Rai Bachchan being trolled on Twitter because she decided to wear purple lipstick to Cannes. How the very dare she go outside the norm!? Sigh. It’s rather sad because both men and women took to Twitter to express their absolute hate of the shade and how ridiculous they felt she looked wearing! You can Google “Aishwarya Rai purple lipstick” and hundred of images will come up and most of them she looks as polished, posed, and incredible as she always does. Sure, purple is a little different for her but who cares? Maybe girlfriend woke up and decided, “I want to try something new today!” And she has that right. We ALL have that right to change up our look any way we want without having to fear that someone is going to have a sudden need to express how horrible they feel we look.
I’m not going to lie, I look like an idiot in purple lipstick. It’s not a shade I personally reach for and it’s not something I go out of my way to buy. But I’m not going to knock anyone else who wants to rock it. Don’t let anyone tell you what makeup you can and can’t wear. Actually don’t let anyone tell you how you can express yourself, what clothes you should wear, how you should talk, how you should do your hair.
Believe me, I would have stopped blogging a long, long time ago if I let every silly little comment get on my nerves. I feel comfortable and quite at home blogging beauty even if I’m not exactly the “ideal looking” beauty blogger. You either like me (thanks, because I like you too!) or you hate me (although I hope you don’t because we’re pretty much strangers and you don’t exactly know me well enough to hate me!) and that’s your choice but don’t rip me because I don’t live up to your expectations of what a beauty blogger should look like. I’m short, I’m chubby, and I like to eat lipstick 🙂
And if Aishwarya Rai wants to walk around in that paper bag wearing gym socks and purple lipstick don’t rip her either. She knows what makes her comfortable, let her do her thing and may be pat her on the back for thinking outside the beauty box.
Remember, do what makes you comfortable! And don’t cry if someone decides to rip you a new one because they hate that about you. That’s their problem NOT yours!
Be yourself always.
Well, not always, if you can be Batman, be Batman. But any other time be yourself!
Everything else my dear, dear friends is cake.